Jeff Klein The Power of Attention
Summary: Real attention leads to connection and the converse is true.
This is a summary of a Youtube video by Jeff who died fairly shortly after recording this TED talk. I guess this simply sums up the NLP notion of Rapport and the greatest gift that you can bestow on others is to pay complete attention to them. And indeed to any task you are attending to right now. This does not happen very often in life and relationships. See my other post about how we listen to ourselves and others. What is our outcome when listening? is it simply to wait for a gap to insert our already known knowledge and to impress?
“If you want me to move you have to connect with me first” – Jeff’s Daughter
An instant lesson in the power of attention to foster the power of connection.
Are you paying attention? Connection will only follow if you are. Of course this may be paying attention to yourself as well as to others.
| STIMULUS | SPACE | RESPONSE |
| IN THIS SPACE LIES OUR FREEDOM AND POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE | ||
Attention is powerful.
The acronym RAIN has its origins in Mindfulness and is often associated with dealing with strong emotions. Here we have a version relating to nicotine addiction.
Recognise the craving
Accept it and let it be Okay
Investigate the cravings
Notice how these cravings change
Before a meeting perhaps ask “What has your attention at this moment?”